grief - loss

Losing someone through death or losing some part of your life (job, a relationship, moving and losing friendships, etc.) is saddening. Grief or bereavement often follow; for some immediately, some gradually, and for others much later. Some "move on" quickly and for others it takes longer. Media and other outlets have popularized the notion that it occurs in stages and in a straight line, while even the field of psychology suggests that if you feel certain things too intensely or for too long, something is seriously wrong with you. This undermines the uniqueness of who you are, the significance of who or what was lost, the ongoing relationships around you, your spiritual view of the matter, and the human plight that we will all experience loss at some point and respond differently. I'm NOT here to pathologize your loss (find something wrong with your response). I'm here to empathize and understand, to be with you during this season in your life.

“For in grief nothing 'stays put.' One keeps on emerging from a phase, but it always recurs. Round and round. Everything repeats. Am I going in circles, or dare I hope I am on a spiral? But if a spiral, am I going up or down it?How often -- will it be for always? -- how often will the vast emptiness astonish me like a complete novelty and make me say, 'I never realized my loss till this moment?' The same leg is cut off time after time.” ― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed