marital counseling

A purpose of Love & Respect Counseling is to serve marriages. Whether you are dating and looking for pre-marital counseling (whether requested by court, your church, or on your own), newly married, or have been married for many years, counseling can be very beneficial.  

I use a variety of approaches in couples counseling. I incorporate the principles of the best selling book Love and Respect during assessment and subsequent counseling. Additionally, I use PREPARE/ENRICH online assessments and materials as a trained facilitator as well as Gottman Method Couples Therapy assessment tools and treatment approaches.

*The below outline of marital therapy may not describe what you are looking for, nor may it be needed or appropriate.  While this method does provide a nice framework or guide, it may appear intensive or overwhelming to you. Please ask questions, as the goal is to provide a comfortable starting point.


One of the goals is to teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and dialogue about issues that just don't seem to go away. We will also work together to help you appreciate strengths in the relationship and manage some of the vulnerabilities.


The components of the assessment are usually as follows: 

  • Session #1     Intake Interview                 80 minutes
  • Session #2     Individual Interviews        40 minutes/ea. (80 total)
  • Session #3     Treatment Planning          80 minutes

Early in the assessment phase, you will be given an opportunity to complete an online assessment ($35) which will be used later. In the first session we will discuss the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals for treatment.

In the next session, I will meet with each of you individually to learn your personal histories and to give each of you an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions.  In the final session of the assessment phase, I will share my recommendations for treatment and work to define mutually agreed-upon goals for your counseling. Most couples find the assessment phase as very informative and actually therapeutic. 


Typically 50 or 80 minutes sessions every week, then less frequently. The length of counseling will be determined by your specific needs and goals. Together, we will consistently evaluate your satisfaction and progress (Feedback). Also, I will encourage you to raise any questions or concerns that you have about counseling at any time.

Out of Counseling:

I may also give you exercises to practice between sessions. In the later stages of counseling, we will phase out or meet less frequently in order for you to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for the end of counseling.

The End:

Although you may terminate counseling whenever you wish, it is most helpful to have at least one session together to summarize progress, define the work that remains, and say good-bye.   


Sometimes follow up sessions are planned if a couple desires: after six months, 12 months, 18 months, and two years.  The purpose of these follow-up sessions then will be to fine-tune any of your relationship skills if needed and to evaluate the effectiveness of the counseling received.   


Love & Respect Counseling accepts direct payment for services and does not bill insurance companies or contract with those companies, but you can. It is a private pay setting, allowing for flexible, responsive, and attentive counseling.   

Generally, the assessment phase requires about 3 to 5 hours in three or four in-office sessions, with additional review of assessments, although this is not always the case depending on what is being requested.

Subsequent sessions for marital counseling are 50 or 80 minutes dependent on needs and schedules.

Whether you view your marriage as good and in need of small improvements or there are more long lasting difficulties, please consider Love & Respect Counseling. I look forward to speaking with you (616.676.6614).